Recently, The Wall Street Journal did a wonderful article on the nine questions partners should ask each other before they tie the knot. See: Love & Money, The Wall Street Journal Page R1, March 27, 2006 by Jeff D. Opdyke. Because the handling of Section 1031 exchanges involves the deferral of tax payments and revolves around how one handles their own money and debt, I thought a brief synopsis of the article would be of interest to you, which I will cover in two blogs instead of one. "...no matter if you are 20 years old and marrying for the first time, or 50 and planning wedding No. 3, the answers will give you a better understanding of how you each view money--and the role it will play in your relationship."
Question # 1--WHAT ARE YOR FINANCIAL ASSETS AND LIABILITIES? Probably the most difficult and basic question to ask and answer. How much you earn and spend; who do you owe and what, are important issues that need to be discussed at the beginning of your relationship. "The first time you and your spouse try to finance a car or buy a house, for instance, the debt will show up on a credit report."
Question #2--How do you use debt? Did you borrow for college or large credit card debt?--how did you intend upon paying off these debts?--The issue here is, are you marrying "...into a potential debt problem."
Question #3--What is your money history? Did you come from a household where money was spent and given freely or did you have to "earn" it the "old fashioned way". Because the author points out that ..."the roots of these behaviors are rarely discussed, yet they define how you and your partner.." will operate in the future.
Question #4--Do We Need a Prenup? As an old time lawyer I know from experience that this is the most explosive question because the issues always raised are: What, you don't trust me or you don't think this marriage will survive? As suggested, if you can't or don't want to bring up the issue, have your financial advisor ask the question of both of you. It's important to have protection for both of you.
Questions five through nine will be covered in the next blog.
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